HI THERE, MY NAME IS QUENTIN AND I’M REALLY GLAD YOU LANDED ON MY SITE.
I consider being a therapist an absolute privilege, and I feel so honored to work with, and guide my clients as they reach their goals and dreams. My story of becoming a therapist began with my own personal development journey, so I am fondly aware with how special this relationship can be.
Prior to working as a therapist I spent many years in the corporate world before I realized how much I enjoyed helping people – and made the decision to pursue being a therapist & coach full time. It was the best decision I’ve ever made.
I believe that true, lasting change happens in the context of trusting relationship with another person, and that is what I hope to gain with all my clients.
In a sea of therapists to choose from, I differentiate myself by offering real, and sustainable solutions to life's challenges. I want my clients to feel better for the long run so they can get back to what's important; their lives.
I have spent thousands of hours working with clients as a therapist and coach and many more thousands of hours learning, reading, and studying. Since completing my Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology, I have gone on to teach at a local University and I have continued my education journey through doctoral level trainings, workshops, and supervision in the most cutting edge theories of couples therapy and personal development.
I am a lover of learning and hold onto the truism that I can only take my clients as far as I’ve gone myself. That is why I continually remain in my own personal development work too; to continue growing for myself and my clients.
When I’m not working, I love spending time with my family and being active with friends. I love practicing Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, surfing, camping, and getting lost trail running in the most incredible nature preserves in Orange County.
I think you can learn a lot about someone by their favorite magazines, so I thought I would share mine with you…
I’M PASSIONATE ABOUT HELPING COUPLES TRANSFORM THEIR RELATIONSHIPS SO THEY LEAVE THE LEGACIES THEY DEEPLY DESIRE.
As a licensed couples therapist, I take pride in guiding couples to feel massively more content, create greater levels of peace, and generally feel much more satisfied to be together then ever before.
We achieve this working together by understanding the very subtle but extremely important, and often overlooked, nuances in relationships that contribute to feeling frustrated, disconnected, or sometimes, downright ready to leave the relationship.
More than ever before, couples need a trusted plan to navigate their relationships in our modern age. So much has changed regarding relationships, yet so much of the advice we receive from well meaning people, including many marriage counselors, doesn't work.
From navigating shifting gender roles, to changing spousal expectations, to how we share parenting responsibilities, many couples feel lost on “how to do it”.
IF YOU'RE A WIFE...
and you feel like you’re not as important as you used to be… that you don’t matter as much… that you’ve been neglected and sidelined and now you’re frustrated…. you’ve landed in the right place too.
IF YOU'RE A HUSABND....
and you feel like there’s nothing you can do to please your wife… that she’s always frustrated with you… and you’re always disappointing her… Hang with me for a little while and I can help you change all of that.
PLEASE EXPLORE ALL OF YOUR OPTIONS BEFORE DECIDING TO END YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
If you’re currently trying to solve a seemingly unresolvable dilemma in your relationship, let’s start a conversation about how we can make the positive changes you're looking for. Sometimes, there's more hope than you feel at the moment.
“When we first met with Quentin we were already discussing divorce. He was our last effort at trying to work things out. Honestly, I don’t think that either of us expected anything to come of our sessions. It was just one more thing to say we tried in order to save our marriage. After a few sessions with Quentin we agreed to set the talk of divorce aside and commit to working towards repairing our marriage. It definitely takes work, but I will say it is the best investment we have made in our future.” - E
“With regards to couples counseling, Quentin is the most compassionate therapist I have ever worked with. He offers sound advice and critical relationship building exercises. After each session with Quentin our relationship grows and just keeps getting better. I do not think there is anything that we cannot work through without his guidance.” - P
“The first time I talked with Quentin I was in a mindset of feeling resigned to marriage. We have two children, we both work, and life just kind of went on day after day. At some point in our marriage we got so tied up in being parents that we forgot to step back and take time for ourselves. Quentin has helped us work through balancing our responsibilities and our emotional needs. He has helped us to put the spark back in our marriage. “- V
OFFERING FEMALE CLIENTS A UNIQUE PERSPECTIVE INTO THEIR RELATIONSHIP WORLDS
Perhaps you're at at a place in your relationship where you just feel stuck. You're working hard to make things better with your husband but nothing you do seems to work. Maybe he seems checked out, distant, or just aloof.
You're probably really tired of fighting so much, but you feel desperate to get through to him. You just want to feel connected.
I know how frustrating that can be. It's a common story I hear in my work, but one I want you to know can be fixed.
As a male therapist, I have a unique understanding and perspective that can be incredibly helpful to my female clients. Blending a deep understanding of emotional connection and attachment theory, combined with the psychology of men, I often can help my female clients in ways that other therapists are not able.
YOU DESERVE TO HAVE THE FULLFILLING, AND EMOTIONALLY CONNECTING RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU LONG FOR. AND I'M PASSIONATELY COMMITTED TO HELPING YOU GET THERE.
Feeling unimportant and alone in your relationship is a non-negotiable and if you've felt this way for some time, together, let's make sense of what is going on and give you a plan for changing things. You don't have to feel that way forever. I am passionate about helping couples have great 21st century relationships.
EVEN IF YOU'RE PARTNER ISN'T WILLING TO COME TO THERAPY RIGHT NOW, THERE IS STILL SO MUCH YOU CAN DO TO CHANGE THE TIDE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP ON YOUR OWN. DON'T LOSE HEART.
As a male therapist helping women with complex relationship issues, these are some of the common relationship challenges I help my female clients solve:
BEING A SUCCESSFUL HUSBAND, FATHER, OR PARTNER IN THE 21ST CENTURY CAN BE A DIFFICULT TASK.
As men, many of us have been taught confusing and conflicting messages about what it is to be a successful husband, and father.
We’re told things like we don’t share our feelings enough and that we’re not “doing it right” as husbands. Or that we don’t know how to be dad’s the “right way”. We’re told that we should “do it this way”, or that we shouldn't “do it that way”.
This can leave many guys feeling off-balance and often results in conflict in our relationships.
IF YOU’RE LOOKING FOR PRACTICAL AND MEASURABLE SOLUTIONS TO HELP SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS, YOU’VE COME TO THE RIGHT PLACE.
Many men might not need “a therapist”, but could benefit greatly from having a mentor or a coach in their lives to help guide them in complex scenarios. Many of us aren’t fortunate enough to have great male role-models in our lives and so we’re left to figure things out for ourselves. I know that was true for me and I’m so thankful to the great male mentors in my life.
WITH 75% OF THE THERAPISTS IN CALIFORNIA BEING FEMALE, I LIKE TO CONSIDER MYSELF A “GUY’S-GUY” WHO GET’S IT.
Having a place to sort through some of life's most difficult and complex areas is something I specialize in helping my clients with. Many of the guys I work with are sorting things out such as:
“Quentin helped me through an extremely challenging part of my life, and did so with compassion and understanding. He took the time to get to know me and built a relationship based on trust and respect; I could tell him anything and everything. This process of discovery has transformed my life and provided the foundation for an honest, happy and hope-filled future. Quentin is also accessible, responsive and flexible, and I highly recommend him”. – J
I was at a really bad place in my life and my relationship with my wife was suffering. Quentin helped me to identify some of the issues that I needed to work through so that I could get to a point of being able to communicate with my wife. Our relationship is so much better now. I realize we still have areas that we need to work on but I honestly do not think we would have been able to hold it together without Quentin’s help.”- B
“I highly recommend Quentin Hafner for those seeking support in subjects ranging from personal growth and development to the complex interactions of marriage. This endorsement of Quentin is also informed by interactions with several previous Marriage and Family Therapists who were not as well-skilled and did not provide this growth. I consider myself very fortunate to have met Quentin and again highly recommend contacting him if you are in need of similar support and growth”. – S
My office is located near John Wayne Airport at:
4100 Campus Drive #200 Newport Beach, CA 92660
I am an out-of-network provider with insurance companies.
I can provide you with a medical receipt for you to submit to your insurance company for reimbrsement.
My fees vary depending on the needs of my clients.
Once I understand your goals, I can provide you with a quote for us working together.
Being a great husband isn't hard, despite what we hear in pop-culture. I really dislike it when people talk about how much "hard work" is involved in marriage, because a relationship done well, is smooth like butter.
Relationships are not supposed to feel like an arduous endeavor that we simply have to endure. If that's how we feel, something is very wrong. But also likely that something is fixable.
What makes it "hard" for many people is that they are playing by a set of rules that don't work anymore.
They are beating their head against the wall....insisting that their old paradigm, and old set of rules is supposed to be working.
Playing any game, with the wrong set of rules, is going to be frustrating. Marriage is no different.
As a way to honor, respect, and provide the most value to my clients, I only commit to working with a small number of people at any given time. I believe passionately in giving my very best to my clients and investing in their lives 100%, and I can only do that by keeping my caseload small and intimate. Therefore, space is limited in my practice.
However, if you feel like we might be a good fit for each other, I would love to hear from you.
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